To myself when I feel like I'm being lazy or not doing enough as a parent. I think we're doing fine. And I think it is okay to say when we, the parents need our space too.
I have to add how much I love the boys being involved in scouting. It gives them a lot of unique opportunities, like sleeping over at a rock climbing gym (after climbing until 2am!) Nate cannot wait until he is officially a cub scout this fall. The leaders joke that he's earned his bear before the big boys.